Dead Poets Society is a deeply moving story about all male students in Welton Academy, the most elite and prestigious school in America that is known for its ancient traditions and high standards. The students are surprised when an English teacher, John Keating, who is also an alumnus of the school, uses unorthodox teaching methods which are very different from strict lessons by realists and anti-youth administration. His methods have successfully reached out to his students who are facing enormous pressures from their parents and the school itself. They finally learn to break out of their shells, pursue their dreams and seize the day.

Carpe diem is a Latin expression used by Keating encouraging his students to make their lives extraordinary. This sentiment used by the main character which means seize the day helps students to live their lives to the fullest, making them be braver to get out of their comfort zones and be unique individuals while they are still alive and breathing. “We are food to worms” is a quote from one of the scenes telling us an important message that we should strive to actually live instead of just staying alive. Students in the age of 17 to 21 are in the midst of confusions and finding themselves. Some have insecurities, some may be too shy, some can be too obedient, and some even do not know how to express themselves well. Keating’s ways of teaching and thinking inspire students to take risks in their daily decisions that can be life-changing.

As can be seen by one of the seven main students in the movie, Todd Handerson is painfully shy and he is terrified that what he might say is meaningless and insignificant. His pessimism discourages him to do a poetry assigned by Keating in one of the scenes in the movie. Keating then instructs the boy to make one up in the spur of the moment by a picture of Walt Whitman hanging on the wall. By pulling such an aggressive yet kind coaching towards the boy, Keating has not only reached out to Handerson, he also managed to build that poor boy’s confidence.

Similarly, Neil Perry who is bright, also is in uncertainty when he does not know what he really wants to do in life while he is restrained by his overbearing, controlling father. When he finally realizes that his real passion in life is acting, he then proceeds to seize the day by taking the role of Puck in Midsummer Night’s Dream at the local theater. Mr. Perry, on the other hand, only wants what is best for his son. He is unwilling to look at Neil’s standpoint on life, as it did not appear as Neil had a concrete idea on what he wants to do. Thus, Mr. Perry dictates his son’s life including extra curricular activities, future plans, and specifically what others think of him. Keating suggests Neil to tell his desires and wishes to his father but he never did. Without his father’s consent, he continues to act as the main character in the play.

In my opinion, teachers in school play a big role in shaping students’ personalities and their judgments besides parents. Students spend most of their time in a learning institution than at home. Their perspectives mostly come from many sources that seem fitting to them to help them face challenges in the real world. Nonetheless, most of education systems made by rationalists have not only blocked students mind from thinking on their own as to what this movie is trying to show, they too, are restraining students from their creativity and believes. To illustrate, most of the students in Welton Academy are forced and are used to follow the traditions of the school until they were shocked in accepting Keating’s teaching method. They find his irregular classes odd and funny.

Keating then continues his teaching by instructing his students to rip off the pages of “Introduction to Poetry” that was written by Dr. J. Evans Pritchard which describes poetry according to mathematical plotting to determine the greatness of it. He is trying to demonstrate freedom of expression and deliberately bring into being freethinkers. From Keating’s perspective, romanticism allowed far more freedom than realism and it presents not only a fresh outlook on life, it also opens new ways to express themselves in ways they possibly can. To put it in simpler words, romanticism is what keeping us alive and truly living while realism is what keeping humans strive and revolutionize.

Words are a unit of language, consisting of one or more spoken sounds or their written representation that functions as a principle carrier of meaning. Words are the roots of literature and writings. Dominant and meaningful words can change mindsets. Poetry can make people feel things deeply. Literature produces imaginary images in our heads. Phrases as simple as “Carpe diem” can lead to thousands of different meanings that can be seen by thousand other perspectives.  


     Dead Poets Society is a 1989 American drama film directed by Peter Weir, written by Tom Schulman, and starring Robin Williams. Set in 1959 at the fictional elite conservative Vermont boarding school Welton Academy, it tells the story of an English teacher who inspires his students through his teaching of poetry.

     The plot centers on the influence of Mr. Keating, a young and exciting English teacher who is determined to teach his students to live life with absolute passion through word Carpe diem. Mr. Keating managed to make his students to love poetry. He did something that other teachers did not do. This movie is about what happens when these students decide to pursue their own desires and to live life with the passion that Mr. Keating encouraged.  

     For me this movie is full of values and beliefs. In any society, the instrument that shapes individual according to the movie, students are expected to be guided by the beliefs and value of the school. Every Welton students are required to trust the doctrine of the school without any conscious, these have been the normal tradition of the school. Mr. Keating's in a way did not only help his student with the values and beliefs of the school but he guided his students into an expended awareness of life's possibilities.

     Second, my opinion is I quite do not like the ending because for me killing yourself or suicide is not the solution. As what Neil did at the ending, it is very disturbing. It makes me feel uncomfortable and more paranoid to face the world. I felt that he should never think about suicidal. Yes, I do understand how he feels, but death is the end of everything. If he was still alive, he can try a new things, as what his parents wanted. I am a kind of person that really afraid to try a new thing, but I never feel that I should do that. If he was still alive, he can negotiate with his father. The moment that Neil’s father asked what he felt, he decide to stay silent and said nothing. I could not see his afford to be an actor. I do love his character and I wish he can pursue in that field. I do cheers and feel very happy for him when I watched the scene that he got the main role for the theater. I felt so happy and I do understand how he felt because I do experience that same thing last year.

     Third, I do love how all the characters interact with each other. I really love the friendship between Neil Perry, Knox Overstreet, Richard Cameron, Steven Meeks, Gerard Pitts, and Charlie Dalton. They were seven of them after a shy Todd Anderson begins his senior year of high school at Welton Academy. He is assigned one of Welton's most promising students, Neil Perry, as his roommate and is quickly accepted by Neil's friends. This is so wonderful and I wish that I also have this kind of friendship. My heart is really broken when Todd was running in the snow when he knew that Neil was dead. I was crying when I watched this scene, and I do remember that Neil was the only one who wish and be with Todd at the night of his birthday. I do agree that family comes first then everything, but sometimes teenagers do feel comfortable to share and tells a lot of things with their peers. It is normal for us because peers sometimes are more understanding because they do experience it.

     I also want to include about Mr. Keating. I do love him. The way he taught and inspired the students was very awesome. Subsequent lessons included having them take turns standing on his desk to teach the boys how they must look at life in a different way, telling them to rip out the introduction of their poetry books which explains a mathematical formula used for rating poetry, and inviting them to make up their own style of walking in a courtyard to encourage them to be individuals. I still remember once my English teacher said to me that “When you know something, try to look at it from different angle. Language, education... They are beautiful”. Honestly I was very inspired and impressed with all of my English teachers by looking how their words absorb into my heart and I do take lesson from it. My English teacher also said that “Everyone have their own problems and struggle, but the thing is how they solve and handle it”. I kept that word since today.



The student who struggles with reading and spelling often puzzles teachers and parents. The student receives the same classroom instruction as other students, but continues to struggle with some or all of the many facets of reading and spelling. This student may have dyslexia.
The primary symptoms are :

  • Problems learning the letter sounds for reading and spelling
  • Difficulty in reading single words, such as on flash cards and in lists (decoding)
  • Lack of fluency
  • Reading slowly with many mistakes
  • Poor spelling
  • Poor visual gestalt / coding (orthographic coding)

Dyslexia is:

  • Highly hereditary.
  • A difference in the way the brain processes
  • Challenges in the development of phonological awareness

"Paying attention to empowerment, emotional intelligence and self-esteem is vital when it comes to dyslexia and associated reading challenges". Jodi Clements


Research has indicated that we should be wary about automatically assuming that language processing difficulties/differences associated with dyslexia are deficits. Some of the differences that individuals with dyslexia display may actually confer advantages for some kinds of thinking or encourage them to find different paths to learning (Singleton)

The following are some of the strengths that individuals with dyslexia may display :

  • Inquiring mind
  • Problem Solving
  • Comprehending new ideas
  • Generating ideas
  • Analytic thinking
  • Creative thinking
  • 3-D construction
  • Finding different strategies
  • Seeing the big picture
  • Insightful thinking


  • Dyslexic children may be physically and socially immature in comparison to their peers. This can lead to poor self-image and less peer acceptance, also make them awkward in social situations.
  • It often affects oral language functioning. This puts them at a disadvantage as they enter teenage, when language becomes more central to their relationships with peers.
  • It causes the person to have depression, anxiety, anger and low self-confidence. 
  • They will have longer learning period. It puts barriers in the way of progress and dyslexia makes some things harder to learn. Usually, the most persistent difficulty is with spelling.

Some people think that all people with dyslexia are brilliant at Math because of Albert Einstein but unfortunately that is not so. People who having dyslexia is actually having a problem such as:

Can't understand the language of Math

  • Some students struggle to read and understand vocabulary in Math questions and therefore don't know what task that they are being asked to do. Many different words can be used to describe the same action. 

Trouble of memorizing things in Math

  • There are many facts, figures, tables and formulas which have to be learnt and recalled accurately but they can't remember all of them.


  • Difficulties with orientation and direction can lead to confusion of Math symbols. Some people with dyslexia show weakness in the Coding subtest in the assessment meaning that they struggle to decode symbols accurately and quickly.


Sharpen skills

  • It is a condition not a medical disease.
  • Even after the treatment, some dyslexics can purpose write how they use to and use them to their own advantage
  • Easily said, it is an added skill. 
  • Leonardo da Vinci calls it "Dyslexia the gift". He's able to write in reverse, mirror image. This trait is sometimes shared among left handed dyslexic adults.
  • dyslexics are more curious than average
  • they have a vivid imagination
  • with specialized training, they can create things creatively 
  • they can also be very talented in art 
  • sharpened skills can be good for their self esteem                        

Stop the society from underestimate the person who have a dyslexia

  • The person who get cured from the disabilities can improve themselves in their spelling or writing and can be socialized, communicate in their studies with the society like the common person
  • Can prevent or limit a serious cases from happen like having a problem to continue their studies to a higher level
  • They can be more independent and confident

Source :


Secara ringkasnya, MDS ialah Minggu Destini Siswa iaitu minggu orentasi bagi pelajar baru UiTM.

  1. Kemeja Putih ( sangat-sangat penting untuk hari penutupan MDS or orientation) – depends kepada kampus masing-masing sebab masa hari pendaftaran aku, tak kisah warna apa asalkan kemeja. Cuma sangat penting untuk hari penutupan dan wajib ada jika diperlukan.
  2. Seluar slack ( tolonglah bawak sebanyak-banyaknya kalau tak nak ulang-ulang guna seluar yang sama selama seminggu ) – memanglah orang tak tahu yang kau pakai seluar sama, tapi mengikut keselesaan lah.
  3. Cadar katil
  4. Bantal
  5. Sarung bantal
  6. Selimut
  7. Baldi
  8. hanger
  9. tie
  10. tali pinggang
  11. charger (all kind of charger)
  12. power bank (sangat penting)
  13. Alat tulis
  14. Fail
  15. water bottle
  16. kasut kulit/PVC
  17. Kasut sukan
  18. stoking putih/hitam
  19. all of your personal document
  20. just bring everything yang diminta dalam surat like gambar passport and what so ever
  21. gambar passport paling paling buat 12 keping. You will never know. But still don’t worry kalau gambar passport tak cukup menawan sebab untuk buat kad matriks, nanti akan ada photoshoot session. Maka berhiaslah suka hati kamu but still ada peraturan ( see? Selagi kau manusia bertamadun maka patuhi lah peraturan )
  22. minyak angin
  23. toiletries (sabun mandi, syampoo, pencuci muka, berus gigi dll) – ini semua tidak disediakan ya harap maklum
  24. Iron
  25. Lock and key
  26. Tudung bawal warna hitam (wajib buat kaum hawa)


Apabila korang dah dapat tau korang dapat kampus mana ( terutamanya UiTM, tapi tak kisah lah universiti mana pun ) maka kalian haruslah ;

  1. Survey dulu network coverage apa yang bagus kat kampus tu. Sebab dalam Malaysia ni (mungkin dunia) banyak institusi pendidikan yang dikelilingi hutan rimba, maka korang kena tahu line apa je yang boleh di access. Sebagai contoh, di UiTM Rembau boleh guna Celcom sahaja. SAHAJA ya. Haha kalau tak mahu kena tekanan jiwa yang melampau, silalah bertukar ke celcom. Cuma pembaharuan dan penambahbaikan akan berlaku dari semasa ke semasa. Kena alert.
  2. Survey tentang kenderaan. Apa yang aku buat ialah aku bukak instagram lepastu search ‘UiTM Rembau’. Kalau ternampak acc instagram senior, korang tegur je. Tanya soalan sebanyaknya bagi kemudahan korang juga.
  3. Buat double triple check document yang perlu dibawa ketika hari pendaftaran.
  4. Pihak universiti akan sediakan check list apa yang korang patut buat dan bawa pada hari pendaftaran. Sila rujuk list tu ya jangan malas. Kalau rasa ada yang tak lengkap, sila lah lengkapkan. List panduan tu sangat penting, untuk rujukan masing-masing.
  5. Silalah bawak minyak angin atau sebarang objek yang membolehkan korang tercelik mata, sebab taklimat sehari suntuk woi! Kalau nak kena hadiah dari para fasi, silalah syahid berjemaah.
  6. Kepada lelaki-lelaki budiman diluar sana, sila belajar ikat tie ya.
  7. Dan para hawa sekalian, sila bawa tudung hitam sebanyaknya.
  8. Bawa kasut sukan! Amat tidak digalakkan untuk berorentasi dengan kasut kulit kerana akan banyak berjalan dan aktiviti luar jangkaan (ragging dll). Anda akan diminta untuk berkemeja, berseluar slack serta berkasut sukan atau berbaju kurung dan berkasut sukan. Maka bersiap sedialah dengan segala kemungkinan.
  9. Mengenai laptop atau sebarang alat elektronik yang luar biasa, tidak digalakkan untuk dibawa sebab selepas minggu orentasi, anda akan bercuti so lepas naik cuti boleh lah bawa.
  10. Ketika orentasi, korang hanya akan berada dalam bilik selama 3-4 jam sehari (waktu itu lah korang mandi, cuci baju, iron baju dan TIDUR!), so barang berharga sila jaga sebaik-baiknya. Korang dilarang untuk pergi ke mana-mana tanpa kebenaran termasuklah untuk ke bilik masing-masing.
  11. MENGENAI CUTI SELEPAS MINGGU ORENTASI ATAU MDS, korang amat digalakkan untuk menghubungi pihak berkenaan beberapa hari sebelum pergi mendaftar di kampus masing-masing. Korang kena tanya sama ada selepas MDS ada cuti atau tidak sebab berlaku masa aku MDS, aku tak tau yang lepas MDS ada cuti seminggu iaitu cuti sempena Hari Gawai dan Awal Ramadhan. So memang agak huru-hara juga untuk cari transport bagi pulang ke pangkuan keluarga dirumah.
  12. Last but not least, SILA DATANG AWAL ketika hari pendaftaran sebab bilik asrama diberi secara random. So kalau datang awal, dapatlah roommate dan housemate yang jenis AWAL dalam segala-galanya. (Sila take note yang ni, lagi-lagi yang ada member dapat kampus yang sama dengan korang)
Food is provided in a week! Jadi jangan risau akan kes-kes kebuluran kerana anda akan cukup makan. Alhamdulillah. Makanan sangat sedap dan korang tak perlu pun keluarkan duit selama seminggu tu untuk makanan. Tak sure lah untuk universiti lain.

#ini hanya sekadar untuk panduan kepada yang mahu kan panduan. Aku pun selama ni search blog untuk dapatkan information so aku pun nak share lah juga maklumat. Dan ini sekadar tips dan bukan paksaan, ada kalanya berbeza-beza di setiap tempat. Hanya sekadar berkongsi maklumat tanpa niat yang terselindung


Isnin, 14 Disember 2015

Assalamualaikum. Kami sekeluarga ke Taman Bukit Tawau atau di panggil TABLE oleh orang tempatan. Tujuan kami untuk bermandi-manda dan lawat nak lepaskan rindu sebab dah hampir 7 tahun tak pergi sejak kami sekeluarga tinggal di Kota Tinggi, Johor. Dan ini lah masa untuk luangkan masa dengan nenek dan Mieya ( my youngest aunt belah ibu ). TABLE merupakan pusat kunjungan yang popular di Tawau.

Taman Bukit Tawau terletak banjaran Brassey telah diwartakan menjadi Taman Taman Sabah (Sabah Park) pada tahun 1979. Ianya terletak 22 kilometer dari bandar Tawau iaitu kira-kira 30 minit perjalanan menaiki kenderaan darat.

Taman Bukit Tawau adalah pusat tadahan air terpenting untuk hampir 1 juta penduduk tiga daerah Pantai Timur Sabah iaitu Tawau, Semporna dan Kunak. Sumber air dari sini menjadi punca kepada enam sungai utama di Tawau iaitu Sungai Merotai Besar, Sungai Merotai Kanan, Sungai Tawau, Sungai Kinabutan, Sungai Balung dan Sungai Mantri. Dengan keluasan 28 ribu hektar, Taman Bukit Tawau menempatkan tiga puncak gunung tertinggi daerah Tawau (dulunya gunung berapi) iaitu Gunung Magdalena setinggi 1,310 meter dari paras laut, Gunung Lucia (1,189M) dan Gunung. Maria (1,067M).

Asalnya Taman Bukit Tawau adalah Hutan Simpan Tawau yang bersempadan dengan Hutan Simpan Ulu Kalumpang di sebelah Utara yang menghubungkan kawasan hutan yang lebih luas iaitu Hutan Simpan Ulu Segama dan Hutan Simpan Kalabakan. Setelah Taman Sabah diwujudkan, hutan tersebut tadi digazetkan menjadi Taman Bukit Tawau. Keadaan mukabumi di kawasan Taman adalah berbukit bukau dengan ketinggian sekitar 30 meter hingga 1,312 meter dari paras laut.

1) Kolam Air Panas Sulfur

Pelbagai keunikan di Taman Bukit Tawau, Sabah antaranya terdapat kolam air panas sulfur! Pengunjung yang datang ke sini perlu berjalan melalui jalan trek yang disediakan sejauh 3.4 kilometer. Lokasi ini menjadi tumpuan kerana kolam air panas semulajadi yang baik untuk kesihatan kulit selain menyaksikan sendiri tindak balas eksistem dari lohong gunung berapi yang sudah tidak aktif.

2) Pokok Tropika Tertinggi Dunia

Selain itu, Taman Bukit Tawau amat terkenal dengan penemuan pokok tropika tertinggi di dunia dari spesis Seraya Kuning Siput (Shorea faquetiana) tinggi 88.32 meter oleh saintis Amerika Syarikat, Dr Roman Dial bersama dua rakannya pada tahun 2006. Mengikut rekod Taman Bukit Tawau. jumlah pelawat tertinggi direkodkan ialah pada Februari 2012 iaitu seramai 10,300 orang. Daripada jumlah itu, seramai 447 orang adalah pelancong asing dari Jepun, United Kingdom, Amerika Syarikat,Australia, Perancis, Rusia, China, Taiwan, Belanda dan Jerman. Untuk sampai ke sini, pengunjung akan melalui trek di dalam hutan sejauh 900 meter.

3) Gunung Berapi Tidak Aktif

Mungkin ramai yang tidak mengetahui bahawa Malaysia mempunya beberapa gugusan gunung berapi. Gunung Maria merupakan sebuah gunung yang terdapat di Taman Bukit Tawau, daerah Tawau di negeri Sabah Negeri di bawah Bayu, Malaysia. Gunung Maria mempunyai ketinggian setinggi 1,067 meter. Gunung berapi tunggal di Malaysia ditemui di dalam Lingkaran Gunung Berapi di Semenanjung Semporna dan terletak di Tawau Hills National Park di Sabah. Gunung Bombalai mempunyai kawah 300 meter lebar dengan ketinggian 531 meter bersamaan 1742 kaki dan dua aliran lavanya mengalir ke dataran pantai yang berdekatan.

Mungkin agak mustahil jika ada orang berkata di Malaysia ada gunung berapi. Tapi itulah realitinya.
Di Malaysia memang ada bekas gunung berapi yang sudah berusia kira-kira 27,000 tahun.

Gunung ini dikelaskan sebagai gunung berapi tidak aktif terletak di wilayah Bombalai, dalam daerah Tawau dengan ketinggian 1,067 meter dari aras laut.

Gunung Maria adalah jenis gunung berapi "Pyroclastic Cone" dan berstatus "Preholecene" iaitu berusia melebihi 12,000 tahun.

buat apa entah tu...

Posing atas jambatan gantung itu wajib.


Khamis, 2 mac 2017

I bought a new accessory for my phone! I find this bunny button really look cute! But I'm not really can put it on the back of my phone because  there is a mustache gem that I place on my previous d.i.y project Black n white perfection . so ya giveaway maybe? hahaha nope. nevaaa it's too cute to let go.

all black ootd yayy!

so hereee we go, he is Benny a YEZZY Boost 350 v2 sneaker by Adidas and Kanye West !

I bought a pair of shoes for myself. I love me, myself and I : '). it's really comfortable, airy and light! I really like it! The main reason I bought this shoe because it was on sale! yeyyy. This is also my first sneaker. I've never had one before so yes I think I might need it in the future. Thirdly, because I was really a big fan of black, color and this is how I imagine the shoes that I want to buy. Dreams really do come true! ( and plus, its been trending so yaa )

On the way back home, I've found a store that sells this necklace! it was amazing and just RM5! it is silver and made of metal. I bought this for my next DIY project as a keychain and a lot more. it is in a good condition and looks booom!


Jenis-jenis bidang kajian ialah :

Microbiologi - mengkaji organisma
Botani - mengkaji tumbuhan
Ekologi - mengkaji persekitaran
Taksonomi - mengenal pasti huraian dan nama organisma
Fisiologi - mengkaji luar badan
Genetik - mengkaji pembiakan
Anatomi - mengkaji dalam badan
Bioteknologi - menggunakan organisma hidup untuk menghasilkan produk berguna
virologi - mempelajari makhluk suborganisme, terutama virus.
Zoology - kajian mengenai alam haiwan
Entomologi - mengkaji serangga
Malacologi - mengkaji moluska
Ichthyologi - mengkaji ikan
Herpatologi - mengkaji amfibia dan reptilia
Ornithologi - mengkaji burung
Mamalogi - mengkaji mamalia
Paleontologi -kajian mengenai fosil
Morfologi - kajian mengenai struktur termasuk luaran atau sistem
Histologi - mengkaji tisu badan
Sitologi - kajian sel serta komponennya
Entomologi - mengenai serangga
Mikologi - mengkaji fungi/cendawan
Embriologi - ilmu embrio, mempelajari bagaimana sel tunggal membelah
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Rabu, 22 Feb 2017

GO HUFFLEPUFF GO! haha eh GO SATRIA GO! it's SK Dato' Usman Awang's 22th Sports day.
Rumah kuning dinobatkan sebagai Juara hari sukan kali ke-22, Juara sukan tara, the winner of the parade with the Witch mascot,, olahragawan bawah 10 tahun dan bawah 12 tahun serta olahragawati bawah 12 tahun adalah dari rumah sukan Satria juga!

It's a fun day to remember and this kids are really cute. Although, only 400+ students in this school, but the sports day was lit. I was very tired, and spent energy to cheer for the yellow house until they were crowned winners!! 

let's talk about my dream sports houses ever inspired by Hogwarts houses and 'five special units' from The Great Wall film ( it's awesomeeeeee )

Rumah Biru - Blueberry tart
- pasukan pancaragam
- maskot : Peacock

Rumah Merah - Red Velvet
- pakar dalam acara larian
- maskot : Cheetah

Rumah Kuning - Creme brulee
- pakar dalam acara lompatan
- maskot : Deer

Rumah Hijau : Green tea
- pasukan keselamatan dan kesihatan
- maskot : Parret

Rumah Hitam : McFlurry
- pakar dalam acara balingan
- maskot : Panda

every student is given the freedom to choose their own sports house, and will be a last phase of the election and qualifications. each student will participate directly or indirectly in school sports events.

students that able to be in the various events will be accorded the privileges and become leaders in sports.

this 5 colours I choose is based on Sukan Olimpik logos which is 5 rings with a different color.

This is also for a short story that I am doing on Wattpad. I want to put this idea in it.

I love food, so as the 'founder' of this sports houses I named it from the name of  dessert. hahahaha wonderful isn't it?


Sabtu, 18 Feb 2017

This chocolate is our breakfast for the most gloomy Saturday in 2017. hahaha thanks to Baim. we should go to Mutiara Rini, Skudai for the Muslimah Fest or something, I just accompany this two girls, but a boy who was supposed to send us there suddenly cancel this trip right when I and Amirah arrived at Baim's house door, where we promised to get together and meet. hahaha what a joke. I woke up early just for this joke? anyways I'm sure he has reasons of its own for its actions. we changed the plan and ask Mimir's father to send us to Aeon Tebrau Mall to recover from this unexpected situation.

KAISON! yeyy! This is my ultimate favorite outlet that I must go and spend money without hesitation but finally crying when I see my own wallet. hahaha I was so excited and buy some stuff. before we go to Kaison, we went to Harris Bookstore and I am seeking for a novel, which is, Fantastic Beast and where to find them but have been sold out at the time! so I go and look at the price of another series of  a great novel, Cinder, Winter, Scarlet, Cress and others! it is booommm. I'm really a big fan of fairy tale story.


exactly! I finally knows, why I'm always bad mood because of food. it's happen sebab hormone gembiraa manusia jugak dihasilkan oleh sistem penghadaman. betul lah orang kata, kenyang perut, hati suka! lols

this is our lunch! Hainanese style chicken chop with omurice and regular chicken chop with omurice. two of it served with blackpaper sauce, and veggies which is a slice of tomatoes and cucumber, and salads.

moustache moustache moustache ootd!

We're still hungry! so we quickly go get a Starbucks and donuts! chocolate is bae and im a fanatic. boba milk tea is my first love from coolblog! it's so nice and please try it! it's really delicious tooooo if you ask for a coffee jelly instead of pearl/boba! super delicious and sweet!


blogging and editing! before we going back home! this is only one scope but after that, this two girls ordered for it again with two scopes of strawberry! it's sour but still I can handle it! gonna try their milk tea next time!

I'm engaged? 


hello! so here is the list of my favourite youtube channel! actually there's a lot of it but yeah this is the best among the best! they're my idol!

1. FOOD TALES | #foodiefam #teamtrinity #teambo | I love food! I love them both! haha things I really like is that they constantly update their youtube channel. almost everyday! I mean almost... do subscribe this channel!

2. MAANGCHI | hahaha I do not know why, but I really enjoyed watching her videos! I have tried a Korean dumpling recipe when I was in Sabah with my youngest aunt. for me Maangchi is very cute and motherly! She is a good cooker! no kidding. She said she majored in philosophy at university and I was amazed.

3. LALALOVES | I found this channel through mukbang and also from Meesh La's mukbang video. I love her personality and her kids are really cute! she made a lot of simple and fun videos about food, lifestyle and more!

4. CUPCAKEAISYAH | I found this channel via her house tour video because I like to watch that kind of video. hahaha btw my dream home is  microapartment because yaa it is simple, easy to clean and clear because I'm a loner (#pray for me). back to the point, actually I know about 'beauty blender' is because she always made video about girls thingy which is beauty, shopping, make up and some other stuff hahaha. I really like her vlogs especially #LondonTrip vlogs and I like the way she said 'thank you' sooo much! 

5. HUNGRY CAKES | ASMR youtube channel. I also like ASMR videos and this one is my absolute favorite! everything is just 'the best thing ever' in this channel. haha please check it out and you will understand.

6. EZZAT EDDY | Here you go! Ezzat indahouse. I really like his daily vlog. it's fun to watch, super good quality! He likes to spread positive vibes and it really made my day! I never missed any one of it. 

7. WATCHCUT VIDEO | Lucky seven! I love this kids! they are so clever, bubbly and articulate! my fav is Ernie, he is sooo cute and the way he talking tho.

8. MOMMY TANG | she is the queen, she is a mother and she is the host. hahaha I'm one of #tanggang! I like the way she talks, she enjoyed eating and talking in front of the camera with confidence! haha I'm one of the #silentviewer that she always mention. Mommy tang's videos are about the story of her life, vegetarian recipes and products and her children are so cute too! I like #tang family and I hope she will never stop making good videos!

9. MEESH LA | oh my this is my favorite. haha from top to bottom I said all channel are my favorites tho. but this is legit! I see this channel grew up and received a lot of subbies. I like the older videos so much, but the latest one emmm, I'm not sure if I liked it ... I really misses mukbang in the car and car excident when you're eating your In-N-out burger and fries.

10. MARK WIENS | Mark Wiens really make good videos! It is amazing and ambitious. go and check it out!


Khamis, 17 Feb 2017


Demam tifoid/typhoid atau lebih dikenali sebagai demam kepialu di Malaysia merupakan penyakit yang disebabkan oleh bakteria yang dikenali sebagai Salmonella Enterica atau secara lebih khusus Salmonella Typhii dan sedemikian demam ini dipanggil sempena nama bakteria tersebut. Penyakit ini boleh didapati di seluruh dunia dan cara penyebarannya adalah melalui makanan dan minuman yang telah tercemar oleh najis. Jangkitan ini boleh menjejaskan seluruh badan dan merosakkan pelbagai organ-organ. Melainkan dirawat, jangkitan ini boleh membawa kesan yang mengancam nyawa. Mengikut kajian, risiko kematian oleh penyakit ini adalah sebanyak 10-30%.


Di sekitar kurun ke 430-424 sebelum Masihi, terjadi satu malapetaka yang dipercayai demam kepialu yang telah mengorbankan hampir satu per tiga daripada penduduk Athens termasuk pemimpin mereka iaitu Pericles. Ahli sejarah kuno Thucydides juga tidak terkecuali dari jangkitan ini namun dia terselamat daripada penyakit tersebut dan menulis mengenainya.

Pada tahun 1897, Edward Wright Almorth telah menemui vaksin yang berkesan dalam menangani penyakit ini. Pada tahun 1909 pula, Frederick F. Russell, seorang doktor tentera Amerika Syarikat membangunkan vaksin Typhoid dan selepas dua tahun program suntikan vaksin anti-typhoid menjadi yang pertama di mana suntikan tersebut diberikan kepada semua anggota tentera Amerika Syarikat.

Setelah penemuan tersebut dan kemajuan penyelidikan serta peningkatan kebersihan, kebanyakan negara-negara maju telah mendapati penurunan demam kepialu pada sepanjang separuh pertama abad ke-20.

Jenis-jenis vaksin anti-typhoid

Di Malaysia, terdapat 2 jenis vaksin anti-typhoid yang digunapakai iaitu vaksin yang berbentuk pil(untuk dimakan) dan vaksin yang diberikan melalui suntikan. Namun begitu penggunaan vaksin suntikan lebih popular berbanding pil di Malaysia.

Vaksin tifoid pil:
  • Vaksin diberikan dalam bentuk kapsul. Diberikan 3 kapsul yang dimakan pada hari ke 1, 3, dan 5.
  • vaksin diberikan kepada individu yang berumur lebih dari 6 tahun ke atas.
  • Imunisasi diberikan setiap 3 tahun bagi pengendali makanan.
Vaksin Tifoid suntikan:
  • Vaksin disuntikkan di lengan atau paha.
  • vaksin diberikan kepada individu yang berumur lebih dari 2 tahun ke atas.
  • Imunisasi diberikan setiap 3 tahun bagi pengendali makanan.

VAKSIN DEMAM KEPIALU merupakan vaksin yang mencegah demam kepialu. Terdapat dua jenis vaksin yang boleh didapati secara meluas: Ty21a (vaksin hidup yang diberi melalui mulut) dan vaksin polisakarida kapsul Vi (vaksin subunit boleh suntik). Kedua-dua jenis vaksin ini kira-kira 30 hingga 70% berkesan selama dua tahun pertama bergantung kepada vaksin tertentu.

Pertubuhan Kesihatan Sedunia (WHO) menyarankan supaya semua kanak-kanak di kawasan yang penyakit ini biasa ditemui divaksinkan. Sebaliknya, WHO juga menyarankan supaya mereka yang berisiko tinggi divaksinkan. Kempen pemvaksinan juga boleh digunakan untuk mengawal penularan penyakit ini. Bergantung kepada keadaan, dos tambahan disarankan setiap satu hingga tujuh tahun. Di Amerika Syarikat, vaksin ini disyorkan kepada mereka yang berisiko tinggi sahaja, seperti pengunjung ke kawasan di dunia yang penyakit ini biasa ditemui.

Vaksin sekarang adalah sangat selamat. Kesan sampingan yang kecil mungkin berlaku pada tempat suntikan. Vaksin boleh suntik selamat dalam kalangan penghidap HIV/AIDS dan vaksin oral boleh digunakan selagi tiada simptom. Keselamatan vaksin oral semasa kehamilan adalah tidak jelas.

Vaksin demam kepialu yang pertama dibangunkan pada tahun 1896 oleh Almroth Edward Wright, Richard Pfeiffer, dan Wilhelm Kolle. Disebabkan oleh kesan sampingan, rumusan yang lebih baharu adalah disarankan pada masa kini. Vaksin demam kepialu tersenarai dalam Senarai Ubat Penting Pertubuhan Kesihatan Sedunia, iaitu ubat paling penting yang diperlukan dalam sistem kesihatan asas. Kos borong vaksin ini pada tahun 2014 ialah kira-kira 4.44 dolar Amerika sedos. Di Amerika Syarikat, kos vaksin ini mencecah 25 hingga 50 dolar Amerika.

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prosesnya sangatlah sekejap tak sampai 2 minit dalam bilik doktor, dia cucuk pastu selesailah. yang lama masa nak tunggu turn je even klinik swasta. Doktor lelaki indian, dia suntik kat lengan disebelah kiri, tak sakit pun, jarum halus sangat tak rasa apa. cuma malam je rasa kebas sikit. harga satu suntikan RM50. psstt takpa takpa demi kesihatan kan. health is wealth :') and PREVENT IS BETTER THAN CURE.


Sabtu, 11 Feb 2017

It was too late, but I still want to upload! haha I have drawn up this entry for almost 4 days because I'm very tired.

rancang nak pergi perpustakaan awam, ya memang dah pergi and the purpose sebenarnya nak guna wifi untuk kemas kini dan buat sedikit search pasal program sambung belajar untuk kawan, tapi sampai je library, librarian tu terus tutup wifi. Masa aku sampai, library tutup sebab rehat time tu wifi still terbukak, konfem sangatlah dia yang nak main sorang. so kami pun tukar haluan ke Pustaka Buku sebab ada store baru yang dibuka, teman Piqah beli novel. Memandangkan aku langsung tak breakfast, lunch apatah lagi, jam pun dah pukul 4pm maka aku pun pergi breakfast + lunch + minum petang + malam sebelumnya memang langsung tak makan!!!

Tekak rasa nak makan KFC tapi nak McD jugak, but finally i choose Nasi Ayam Penyek hahaha walaupun tak da dalam list "tekak rasa nak makan". I'm craving this for a longest time. masa aku excident motor 4 tahun yang lepas, sebenarnya aku memang tengah craving Nasi ayam penyek ni dan haritu jugaklah abah terus pergi beli, dengan keadaan kaki berbalut aku makan. dahlah pedas hahaha macam membohong je kan, tapi itulah kenyataannya.

lepas makan aku pergi store Al-ikhlas gadget untuk beli some stuff for my harta. dah lama tak shopping barang elektronik ni hahaha computer mouse pun dah bertahun nak beli tapi tak terbeli-beli.

bae! entah lah ni earphone yang ke-berapa aku pernah beli sepanjang aku hidup kat dunia ni. i love earphone more more more than headphone!

berjalan pusing-pusing satu bandar, rasa macam lapar lagi. hahaha I need desert for sure! first motif datang McD sebab nak makan fries dengan burger tapi takda sebab ada masalah teknikal kat dapur so ada jual air dengan aiskrim sahaja. I'm peculiar so i bought Kaya Ball untuk makan dengan Sundae Cone! sedap sangat okey. Kaya ball panas panas dengan aiskrim. serupa macam american pancake.

navy blue in daa house people! ootd versi dari bawah pusat hingga ke ibu jari kaki. lol

inilah tujuan sebenar! nak beli no pin unik untuk permohonan online UPU. beli melalui mesin ATM, simple sangat. wish me luck for the upcoming challenges in life! proses permohonan melalui online so memang wajib no pin untuk akses laman web ini. kepada batch99 goodluck guys! pilihan 1-8 aku pilih UiTM hahaha don't judge. #hidupbumiputera. pilihlah dengan bijak, ikut minat dan jangan paksa diri. Be what you wanna be and stay focus on it. 

lepas beli no pin, tup tup jam dah pukul 6pm dimana aku dengan Nanath sepatutnya berjumpa di stesen bas sebab dia dah nak balik ke college dia. dia order aloevera gel ni kat aku sebab susah nak cari lagi-lagi di Kota Tinggi yang kerdil ni. sambil menyelam minum air! so hantar kan je lah sekali pada dia, dia pun bukan selalu boleh balik. 

Mr. D.I.Y againnn. more moustache gem for me. that note book tho! lawa gila design kompas, memang sesuai untuk traveller!


It is imperative in a leadership role that you communicate effectively. An age old aphorism goes, “It’s not what you say, but how you say it.” Communication is what separates a poor leader from an exceptional one. Having effective communication skills is the key to good leadership.

When you communicate well with your team, it helps eliminate misunderstandings and can encourage a healthy and peaceful work environment. Efficient communication with your team will also let you get work done quickly and professionally.

The moment you get the lines of communication open with your team, the process of carrying out tasks and projects will most likely go by smoothly. Plus you will be surprised how meeting targets will become a whole lot easier.

Ways to Communicate Effectively in the Workplace
1. Open Meeting
It is easier to communicate your passion and how you feel to your team via open meetings. In this kind of forum, they will not only hear what you are saying, they will also see and feel it. This approach still remains one of the best approaches to communicate effectively with a team.

2. Emails
In official settings, communication via email remains potent. It will enable you to pass messages to members of your team without pulling them out of their work stations.

3. One on One
Experts have been able to prove that some people understand better when you take them aside and talk to them on a one-on-one basis. Ensure that you maintain eye contact with them to enable the message to sink in.

4. Use Presentations
Some people grasp messages easily when pictures and sounds are involved. Using presentations like Microsoft Power Point to communicate with your team will give them the opportunity to refer back to it if they aren’t clear about certain things.

5. Communication via Training
Your training should be tailored towards communicating certain information to your team members. Most employees take training serious, especially when it’s part of their appraisal.

6. Display Confidence and Seriousness
Ensure that you display confidence and seriousness to ensure that you will not be taken for granted. When your team members notice any uncertainty and lack of seriousness when you’re communicating with them, they are likely to treat the information with disdain or disregard.

7. Use Simple Words
The truth is that everybody cannot be on same page when it comes to vocabulary. Therefore, to be effective in your communications with your team members, use words that can be easily understood. When ambiguous words are used, you can be misunderstood and/or waste precious time having to explain yourself.

8. Use Visuals
Place visuals at strategic positions around the work stations of your team. They should not just hear the message, they should also see it. This gives room for better comprehension.

9. Listen to Your Team Members
Communication is intended to be a two way street. Don’t just talk because you are the leader without listening to anyone else. Encourage them to open up so you can be well guided when communicating in the future with them. You have two ears and one mouth –so you must listen more than you speak.

10. Use Body Language
Your body language will pass your message faster and better. Master the art of using body language when communicating with your team. Stand/sit up straight, use smiles, handshakes and eye contact.

11. Act Out Your Message
Someone once said, “Tell me what you want me to do and I might forget it, but do it in front of me and I will never forget it.” Acting out your message is a very potent way of communicating with your team. Let them see you do what you want them to do, and watch their excuses disappear.

12. Use The Appropriate Tone of Voice
One word can mean a different thing when said in a different tone of voice. Make sure you use the appropriate tone of voice to communicate your message to your team so that you won’t be misunderstood and discourage or demotivate members or cause them to shut down completely out of fear.

13. Avoid Unnecessary Repetition
If you want your team members to take you serious, never sound like a broken record and don’t beat a dead horse. Tell your team members what you want them to know or do and ask them if they are clear about it. If they are not, only then do you repeat what you have said.

14. Create a Receptive Atmosphere
To effectively communicate with your team, you must create a receptive atmosphere. Avoid a tense environment at all costs because when you communicate in an overly intense manner, the message you are trying to share might not be well understood or retained.

15. Be Humorous
Using friendly jokes when communicating with your team members will help pass your message along in a more relaxed way. This method of communication has been proven to be a highly effective way of dousing tension. When the atmosphere is unfriendly and intense, being humorous does the trick. If you must use jokes, please don’t overdo it. Remember, you are not a stand-up comedian.

16.  Be Articulate
Communication is indeed a skill that must be learned by all, especially if you want to lead any group of people. Being articulate  when you communicate to your team members makes it easier for them to understand your message.

17. Avoid Mumbling
Your team members should be able to hear you clearly. When communicating with them, try as much as possible to speak clearly and not mumble words. When you mumble words or speak too quickly, you may assume that they are clear on the subject. But the truth is, they might not be. It also shows a lack of confidence on your part.

18. Encourage Feedback
Don’t just talk and walk away. Give room for feedback so that you can measure the effectiveness of your style of communication. It will also afford you the privilege of knowing if your message was well understood.

19. Gesticulate
Use your hands to demonstrate your message. Make hand motions and signals to establish the seriousness of your subject matter when communicating with your team members. This shows that you understand what you are trying to relay to them. Just don’t let your body movement become too exaggerated and intense.

20. Be Appreciative
After every communication session, via whatever means you have decided, always remember to thank your listeners for their time. It will cost you nothing and it’s a simple courtesy.

Remember that the point of working as a team is to share ideas and boost productivity. When communication is hampered, it can sidetrack the entire effort.

You must work hard at these communication tactics and create ground rules to keep everyone up to date, which helps avoid confusion and ensure the completion of the project with ease.

Neha patel, December 11,2013 at 12;41am
Face to face or one on one communication is the best for my business and I really satisfied with it.

Robert Brady, November 19, 2013 at 6:24 pm
In all of these situations, keep it short, simple and to the point. Whether good or bad, belaboring the point takes away from the message.

Aira Bongco, November 19, 2013 at 11:00 pm
Also, team building activities and out-of-work activities can foster bonding and camaraderie among the team. This way, team members would be more willing to contribute and reach the team’s goals.

Mike Dancy, November 21, 2013 at 8:41 pm
All great ways to communicate. And Communication is key. Very few things set the tone of employment mood then lack of communication. All employees like to be “in the loop” with company choices and decisions. Be excluding employees, a company can shut out their best performers and actually drive them away from the company.

Grace Atkins, December 17, 2013 at 4:39 am
Effective communication in the workplace can increase work productivity and output which leads to the success of the business. Thank you for sharing the bunch of ways that would be helpful for business success.

Aaron Rodriguez, August 28, 2014 at 4:27 pm
I agree a team that is working together to get the same objective is always better numerous minds are always better than one, different prospectives always help to get the outcome more efficiently.

Aaron Rodriguez, August 28, 2014 at 4:22 pm
I agree with all these methods. Being open for anything ideas are always good. No one wants a work environment that is quiet and have there head down, un fun. Communication is what also makes time go by fast.

Dinesh Kumar, November 28, 2014 at 8:56 am
Face to face communication is the best way for any communication

Sandra M harrell, May 10, 2015 at 11:18 am
“Face to face communications is still my favorite I’m able to see my audience and with their moves or faces I can get immediate feed back . and is true the way we project ourselves is how they are going to take it, keep it fresh interesting informative and open for questions"

Celestine, August 22, 2016 at 2:04 pm
Face to face communication is the best because some people understand signs,demonstration can easy the understanding and also Avenue to air there views.thanks for this article

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A barrier is anything that will get in the way of communication. There are a wide range of barriers including:

Attitude – When a worker is abrupt due to time limits, not having enough resources or their mood, the person they are speaking to may feel intimidated or frustrated and not want to communicate.

Limited use of technology – When the technological aids known to be the best way for someone to communicate are not available.

Body positioning – Sitting too close could be intimidating and would make an individual feel uncomfortable. Sitting too far away could show lack of interest or concern.

Emotions – When someone is depressed, angry, embarrassed or upset their emotions may affect their ability to think and communicate in a sensible way.

Physical – When someone has physical conditions that create communication difficulties, for example, being breathless, not having any teeth or being in pain.

Not enough time – Not giving individuals time to say what they want may make them feel rushed and reluctant to express their true wishes.

Poor or negative body language – Crossed arms or legs, poor facial expressions, poor body positioning, constant fidgeting or looking at a watch or mobile phone can all make someone less likely to communicate.

Lack of privacy – Think carefully about where and when private and confidential conversations should take place.

Stereotyping – Generalisations about a group of people that are wrong and misleading. An example would be that ‘all older people are hard of hearing'.

Other barriers include sensory impairments, culture, language, noise, lighting or substance misuse.

As a worker you should do what you can to reduce any barriers to communication. The most effective way to make sure that you are meeting someone’s communication needs and providing person centred care is to know as much as possible as you can about them.

A ‘communication passport’ might be used by some which provides vital information about their needs, wishes and preferences. This pulls together the information into a format that is easy to read, often with pictures and photographs. Putting something like this together with an individual can be another good way of getting to know them well and understanding their needs. Your organisation might have a suggested format but at a simple level you can put one together with the individual to suit them.

It is important to get regular feedback about your communication style and methods from the people you provide care and support to so that you can continue to improve how you communicate. You could also increase your awareness of different communication needs and methods through taking up learning opportunities. Experience will help you to develop a variety of new methods of communication and selecting the best one in each situation. Be creative. Open body language and a positive, non-judgemental attitude will further help reduce barriers. Your communication skills should be seen as a toolbox, using the right tool for the right job and choosing a different tool if one doesn’t work well.

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Most people think about speech when they think about communication but there are many other ways we can also use to communicate with each other.
  • Facial expressions
  • Gestures
  • Pointing / Using hands
  • Writing
  • Drawing
  • Using equipment e.g. Text message or computer
  • Touch
  • Eye contact

For communication to be effective we also have to be able to understand what others are trying to communicate to us.

  • Understanding language
  • Hearing
  • Ability to see
  • Reading skills
  • Ability to recognise and use information
  • Memory to recall and understand information


Meaning : The communication in which the sender uses words to transmit the message to the receiver is known as verbal communication.
Types : Formal and Informal
Time Consuming : No
Chances of transmission of wrong message : Rarely happens.
Documentary Evidence : Yes, in case of written communication.
Advantage : The Message can be clearly understood and immediate feedback is possible.
Presence : The message can be transmitted through letters, phone calls, etc. so the personal presence of the parties, doesn't make any change.

Meaning : The communication that takes place between sender and receiver with the use of signs is known as non-verbal communication.
Types : Chronemics, Vocalics, Haptics, Kinesics, Proxemics, Artifacts.
Time Consuming  : Yes
Chances of transmission of wrong message  : Happens most of the time.
Documentary Evidence : No
Advantage : Helpful in understanding emotions, status, lifestyle and feelings of the sender.
Presence : The personal presence of both the parties to communication is a must.

Different people have different ways of communicating that work best for them. Some of the different types of communication are:

Verbal  communication - Differences in how you speak, including the tone, pitch, speed and volume of your voice could change how your messages are taken in. Try to avoid using jargon or abbreviations and complicated words and terminology. Make sure you always speak in a respectful way, adjusting your speech to suit the individual.

Sign language - This is a recognised language throughout the world. British Sign Language (BSL) is used by individuals in this country and there are variations of sign language in different regions.

Makaton - This is a form of language that uses a large collection of signs and symbols. It is often used with those who have learning and physical disabilities, or hearing impairment.

Braille - Is a code of raised dots that are ‘read’ using touch. For people who are visually impaired or who are blind, the system supports reading and writing.

Body language – This is a type of nonverbal communication. There are many different aspects of body language, including gestures, facial expressions, eye contact, body positioning and body movements. Each of these will communicate information about an individual or a worker often without them realising it.

Gestures – These are hand or arm movements that emphasise what is being said or used as an alternative to speaking.

Facial expressions – These support what is being said by showing reactions or feelings. They can give you valuable clues that you can use to check out a  person’s feelings.

Eye contact - Maintaining good eye contact is an important way for a worker to show that they are engaged and listening.

Position - The way that we stand, sit or hold our arms when we are talking will provide others with clues about our feelings, attitude and emotions.

Written communication - This method is used to send messages, keep records, or provide avidence

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Individuals who enjoy solving the other party's problems and preserving personal relationships. Accommodators are sensitive to the emotional states, body language, and verbal signals of the other parties. They can, however, feel taken advantage of in situations when the other party places little emphasis on the relationship.

Accommodation is a passive but prosocial approach to conflict. People solve both large and small conflicts by giving in to the demands of others. Sometimes, they yield because they realize that their position is in error, so they agree with the viewpoint adopted by others. In other cases, however, they may withdraw their demands without really being convinced that the other side is correct, but for the sake of group unity or in the interest of time--they withdraw all complaints. Thus, yielding can reflect either genuine conversion or superficial compliance.

Individuals who do not like to negotiate and don't do it unless warranted. When negotiating, avoiders tend to defer and dodge the confrontational aspects of negotiating; however, they may be perceived as tactful and diplomatic. Inaction is a passive means of dealing with disputes. Those who avoid conflicts adopt a "wait and see" attitude, hoping that problems will solve themselves. Avoiders often tolerate conflicts, allowing them to simmer without doing anything to minimize them. Rather than openly discussing disagreements, people who rely on avoidance change the subject, skip meetings, or even leave the group altogether (Bayazit & Mannix, 2003). Sometimes they simply agree to disagree (a modus vivendi).

Individuals who enjoy negotiations that involve solving tough problems in creative ways. Collaborators are good at using negotiations to understand the concerns and interests of the other parties. Collaborating is an active, pro-social, and pro-self approach to conflict resolution.

Collaborating people identify the issues underlying the dispute and then work together to identify a solution that is satisfying to both sides. This orientation, which is also described as collaboration, problem solving, or a win-win orientation, entreats both sides in the dispute to consider their opponent's outcomes as well as their own,

Individuals who enjoy negotiations because they present an opportunity to win something. Competitive negotiators have strong instincts for all aspects of negotiating and are often strategic. Because their style can dominate the bargaining process, competitive negotiators often neglect the importance of relationships. Competing is an active, pro-self means of dealing with conflict that involves forcing others to accept one's view.

Those who use this strategy tend to see conflict as a win-lose situation and so use competitive, powerful tactics to intimidate others. Fighting (forcing, dominating, or contending) can take many forms, including authoritative mandate, challenges, arguing, insults, accusations, complaining, vengeance, and even physical violence (Morrill, 1995). These conflict resolution methods are all contentious ones because they involve imposing one's solution on the other party.

Individuals who are eager to close the deal by doing what is fair and equal for all parties involved in the negotiation. Compromisers can be useful when there is limited time to complete the deal; however, compromisers often unnecessarily rush the negotiation process and make concessions too quickly.

A job interview: “What are you offering, and what can you expect to get in return? Ask them some questions about their attitude to rewarding success and commitment. What is their long-term vision for the organisation and the people in it? Such questions help you look strong and interested on a deeper level than usual,” says Charles.

Your salary: “You are in an objectively weak position. You have huge Needs, but an employer has a huge choice of candidates! The key thing is to project competence and confidence: you want the employer to believe that she/he will be better off by employing you and not the other candidates.

“What if I do really well in my first six months? Might you see your way to stepping up the salary a notch?” Ask directly if there is any flexibility on the salary or working methods, but in doing so show that you see the employer’s point of view:“To be quite honest, on this salary I’ll struggle to afford the rent and the commute!”

Suzie Cuddy is the UK Resourcing Advisor at O2′s Telefonica, so we asked her advice on how she suggests we negotiate salary, especially if you’re offered a salary that will barely cover your outgoings. “Never take a job that would cover your means. Not only will this lead to obvious financial strains like serious issues of not being able to pay rent or bills etc, but it could also lead to serious stress. Stress is never what you want out of a job and being in a job that means you cannot support yourself will only cause unnecessary stress.”

“Talk to the company and explain to them your situation and how much you would love to work for them but it just would not be financially viable for you. If they really want you and are really interested they will do something to get you on-board.”

Working flexibly: “It does no harm to attempt a negotiation of sorts in a job interview as long as it is done in a sensible, constructive way. That in itself projects adult confidence. ‘What if you look at allowing me to work from home three days a fortnight after I have proved myself for a couple of months?’

“Note that in both these cases you are trading Resources/Control around the idea of Time,” says Charles.

Linda Babcock did a study for her book Women Don’t Ask where she found that there was a 7.6% difference between the salaries that women MBAs were getting and those that men were getting. A lot had been written on the comparable work issue already and much of the blame for the difference had been placed on organizations - basically institutional sexism.

Linda doesn’t say that doesn’t happen, but she does ask if there is something more. One of the questions she asked people is, “When you got your offer, did you attempt to negotiate?” She found that about 7% of women attempted to negotiate, while 57% of men did. Of those people who negotiated, they were able to increase their salary by over 7%. So, you can see that if women and men negotiated in similar proportions, that 7.6% difference would be cut dramatically.

One of the things I ask my students is: If you think of a $100,000 salary, and one person negotiates and gets $107,000, and the other doesn’t—what’s the cost of that? In a simple-minded way, some people say, "Is $7,000 really worth risking my reputation over?” And I agree, $7,000 may not be worth your reputation.

But that’s not the correct analysis, because that $7,000 is compounded. If you and your counterpart who negotiated are treated identically by the company—you are given the same raises and promotions—35 years later, you will have to work eight more years to be as wealthy as your counterpart at retirement. Now, the question is: $7,000 may not be worth the risk, but how about eight years of your life?

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Dunia Iqmar Effendy